We can root out coercive tactics by knowing what to replace them with
Questions to ask ourselves:
Do I criticize... more than I compliment?
Do I insist others obey me because of my position of authority?
Do others seem reluctant to talk to me about their feelings and concerns?
Do I attempt to guarantee my place of authority by overt or subtle forms of punishment?
Do I find myself setting and enforcing numerous rules to control others?
Do others appear to be fearful of me?
Do I feel threatened by the notion of sharing power or responsibility for decision making?
Are others highly dependent on me and unable to make decisions for (themselves?
Do I see myself as being the main source of inspiration for others rather than teaching them to listen to the Spirit and receive their own answers?
Do I often feel angry and critical toward others?
- Adapted from H. Burke Peterson, “Unrighteous Dominion,” Ensign, July 1989, 7.
Children Do Better When They Feel Better by Dr. Jane Nelson
Positive Discipline by Dr. Jane Nelson (and she has 7 kids!)
"4 Ways to Communicate with your Teenager" by Cornerstone Christian Counseling.
"How to Parent the Teen Struggle to fit in and Stand Out" by Liz Matheis, PhD.
in Healthy Ways
A powerful analogy illustrating the difference between nurturing internal faith verses coercing outward "faithful" actions
Self Assessment Tools
for Teachers & Leaders
Improving as a Christlike Teacher: Personal Evaluation (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints)
What is Spiritual Abuse?
Church Handbooks & Sites:
Abuse Policy & Protection
Ensuring Church Camps
are Emotionally Healthy
"The Young Women are Ready: Changes to Camp Provide Leadership Opportunities." by Bonnie L. Oscarson
Do those we serve feel better or worse after our encounters with them?
“...gospel learning that strengthens faith and leads to the miracle of conversion doesn’t happen all at once..."
"in our efforts to teach... we should
seek after whatever invites the Spirit and reject whatever drives that influence away.”
- Come Follow Me, “Conversion is our Goal”